We all have shit that happens that feels horrible. Scary. Drags up fear or grief or shame and sometimes, we feel like we won’t crawl back out from it.
During these times do you have a person or a few people you can really lean into? Like they are solid where you can be vulnerable and share your STUFF with them?
Where they really SEE you but don’t let you tell them bullshit either? They love you and they also hold you accountable and see you as capable.
Let me underline that part of this – they see you as CAPABLE!
Why is that so important? Because we all know people who we can share things with but the person views us afterwards as broken. Or different. Or a victim. That isn’t helpful in the long run.
I highly suggest if you don’t think you have these people around you, first ask yourself if you are that person for anyone?
Can you listen to peoples stuff, without needing or feeling like its your job to fix them? Or judge them?
Are you safe for people to tell things to? Or do you feed off drama?
Or are you constantly telling them how they should be? Do you commiserate in pain with them?
Or can you hold empathy and see them as capable and give them a helping hand?
Do you have faith that GOD/Source has a plan that is being carried out even in the hardest times?
I have had people who have really SEEN me at some dark times. I remember one of my friends, going to adjust me right after my mom got sick and things were pretty rough for a while. She looked at me and just said, “Lona, I see you girl.” I knew she knew. I was about to present at a seminar and put on my “mask” to dig deep on stage. But she looked at me, felt my spine, and knew things were chaotic in me. She listened to my body but didn’t speak. It felt real. Real human to human. You see to me, thats intimacy.
She didn’t try to fix me.
Maybe you shy away from friends who really SEE You? Not everyone is comfortable with this. I think many times that’s why we drink and use drugs to try to hide; sometimes we use other things to cover up. Stories. Humor. Anger. etc.
It is powerful to have friends who will accept you as you are and hold space for you to get your grip back into your higher self again. So when shit hits the fan, who is healthy for you to turn to?
This is a powerful question to know the answer to.